The Sheri and Erin Show

Join us as we discuss Parental Patterns of Bullying with spiritual counselor, Cynthia Lamb.  

 

Bullies often learn their bullying behaviors from others and frequently they learn it in their own home from their own family members. 

 

Bullying behavior is based on a "better than"/"less than" mentality where one person asserts dominance over another based on a familial or societal beliefs.

 

Many traditional families have belief systems such as "boys are better than girls" or "quiet children who follow rules are better than children who challenge authority and convention".  Based on these beliefs, bullying is justified.

 

If you decide to break the cycle of bullying in your family, you can help others by educating them about what you're doing and why. The way to heal bullying is compassion.

 

If you are the bully, it's important to engage in self-forgiveness. Don't shame anyone, not even yourself. Remember, the underlying belief that drives bullying is: "Better than, less than". Begin to adopt a mindset of "We are all equal" and that includes you.

 

If you are in a relationship that is mutually bullying, (i.e. you bully each other) choose not to play. If you refuse to react and respond to bullying with more bullying, something will change.

 

Cynthia Lamb is a spiritual counselor in private practice. She works Internationally to facilitate the global awakening. You can find her blog at: cynthialamb.wordpress.com/